Morning my lovelies! Happy Monday! Today I’ve (randomly!) got a Meet the Author interview for you. I’m chatting with Jeremy Roadruck about kung fu, why one of his books has a money back guarantee, being relentlessly curious, what the world needs more of, his most recent book, Your Best Child Ever: Is This Game Worth Winning? and more….
Personal Development, Parenting, Young Fiction (cats!)
Tell us a bit about yourself:
Husband, Father, Kung Fu Master (26 years as of 2020), International Champion, consultant to indivdiuals, families, teens, and kids – master level certifications in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Neuro Strategies, and Hypnotherapy. Experienced childhood trauma at 5 and 6 which shifted me into what I call a “teen brain” at a VERY young age. ‘Because I said so‘ quit working with me around 6 and I constantly had a driving need to KNOW the WHY of things; I didn’t easily trust or believe. And, reverse psychology just made me go sideways so we’re both unhappy. I’ve had stints in the military, corporate work, temp work, factory work, reading meters, was a security guard, had some college, even travelled to work in Renissiance Festivals sleeping out of a van we converted into a moble home! Lived with cats for close to 40 years, and still learning and growing every day.
How many books have you written and published?
I’ve written 2 on my own – one is the only parenting book with a money-back guarantee and the other is about a fictional world were cats learn martial arts. I’ve also contributed a chapter to a series of books on helping bullyproof children.
What inspired you to start writing and where do you get your ideas?
I struggled as a kid – with myself, with the world, with why I was always angry. Books and stories were a great way to escape my world and enter someplace new, a place where I could learn and understand what was going on. I wrote Your Best Child Ever: Is This Game Worth Winning in answer to a book my dad read and tried to use with my brother and I called Games People Play. It’s a decent enough book but it didn’t really tell the reader what to do instead of playing dysfunctional games; it only showed how to break dysfunctional games. I’ve found being focused on what you want (like “walk, please”) is WAY more powerful than focusing on what you don’t want (like, “don’t run” … and so I would start skipping, crawling, sliding sideways, easing, skipping… never walking, oddly enough!). I realized I have a different way of working with kids than most, so I started writing down what I do and why. Then I put a money-back guarantee on the book to entice parents to read a book by a single guy, with no kids, who wasn’t married and, at that time, wasn’t even dating
How long does it take you to write a book?
Generally a month for about 64,000 to 85,000 words – but that was when I was single. Haven’t written since becoming a father of my own children, but I tend to zone out and just dump stuff out of my unconscious as I’ve mulled over my content for a while before sitting down to write.
As a child, what did you want to do when you grew up?
I wanted to be a kung fu master, enlightened, a billionaire, and a father. Hit two on the list in less than 25 years. Still working the other two… I’ll let you guess which ones are which! 🙂
Name one book you think everyone should read and tell us why?
That’s easy – Seventh World of Chan, an intermidate level treatment of Chan Buddhism. In part II, chapters 5 to 9, the author – Em as she liked to be called by friends – she mapped Jungian Archetype projection into the causes of suffering as related by Chan Buddhists. It’s a BRILLIANT treatment of how people grow and mature, and I’ve found it just about perfect for parents of kids around 10-12 as they start to become teenagers and question their parents about life and love. I think everyone could use a bit more non-attachment in their lives.
What is the best thing you’ve done in your life so far?
Married my wife, Autumn. Resulted in me meeting my step-son Jamie, and helping to create my daughter Evie. My life trajectory pivoted because of Autumn.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
I believe in resonance at first sight. Love to me is too complex to just “twang” and that’s it forever… but I did walk into my now wife’s life and 3 hours disappeared. And we were married 6 months later. She was too young for me by FAR, and I was too old for her by FAR… but here we are, celebrating 7 years in December of 2020.
Describe yourself using three words only…….
Creatively, resililantly, playful.
If you could have a superpower, what would it be and why?
Omnipotence without omniscience. No point in being able to do anything/everything if you already know the results. I’m relentlessly curious, and being able to anything/everything… so much fun poking at people’s views of themselves and live.
What is your favourite word and why?
Interesting. You can use it in soooo many ways… positive, negative, neural, as a shield to my own thoughts, to connect with a child going sideways on something… a bump in the tone can take it soooo many ways. INteresting… as your voice trails off, interesting as you raise one eyebrow… love it! If you’re a fan of Two-Set Violin, you know EXACTLY the power of “interesting.”
What does the world need more of?
That’s easy – appreciation. What I can tell you, though, is if you show gratitude for the people in your life and the things they do for you, with you… happiness increases all around. I had some very bad things happen to me as a child. I worked through them, internalized them, released them and now I help others. And, even if I could take away those experiences, I wouldn’t. I am not the man I am today without that abuse in the past. All my drives, abilities, talents, insight… they ALL step from some horrible experiences that I do not wish on anyone and I’ve given over 25 years of my life to help each others how to create their own emotional safety and assert their boundaires physically, mentally, emotionally, and socially. But I appreciate and see the value of those early experiences. Now, that doesn’t mean I would EVER say to someone that their abuse is a gift; that’s MY story about MY experience and I’m available to be a resource for others, but I do not DARE to tell others what they should think or feel.
And finally, tell us about your most recent book and where we can find it?
Your Best Child Ever: Is This Game Worth Winning? It’s the only parenting book I know of that features a money-back guarantee. I believe so strongly in this book that you can buy it off amazon, or download a .pdf off my website for free. I want the information in this book out far and wide. I know this stuff works – I’ve tested in almost daily for over 20 years. Thank you for asking. 🙂
thank you jeremy for coming over and talking to us! I’m off to download your book now (even if i don’t have kids!)
Make sure you give Jeremy a shout if you have any questions, or drop a comment below.
Stay safe everyone